Having a Second Baby: Preparedness vs Readiness - Is There a Difference?
There are moments in life where we have to take a step of faith and tune out that voice of doubt in our minds. Having a second baby can possibly be one of those moments.
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines "Preparedness" as a state of being subjected to a special process or treatment.
On the other hand, its definition of "Readiness" is "prompt willingness", and one of the ways it defines "willing" is "Done, borne or accepted by choice or without reluctance".
One can be prepared for having a second baby and yet not be ready.
"So are you planning to have a second baby?"
This question pops up whenever a family member we haven't met in a while engages us in conversation.
I remember before we had Maeleth, our 20 month old daughter (at the time of me writing this post), they would ask us "So are you planning to have a baby?".
I assume that these questions will continue even if we have a second baby: "So, are you planning to have a third baby?". It is really easy to ask these questions when they don't have to bear the responsibility of parenting that hypothetical child, haha.
Yet, whenever they ask the question, my love Amilee and I would discuss about it, and it would go something like this: "You want to have another child?", "Maybe when Mae is more grown up.", "Now we're already so tired. Imagine if there's another baby to take care of..".
To clarify, Amilee is not pregnant! I am writing this blog post because I realised that one can be prepared for having a second baby and yet not be ready at the same time, and would like an outlet to share my thoughts.
Now, we are not against the idea of having a second baby, but we are not planning or trying to conceive at the moment. Our motto is to let God lead us for what He wills to be done in our lives.
After being full-time parents to Maeleth for 20 months and counting, I believe that Amilee and I have the preparedness for having a second baby.
From experience, we should be able to feed, bathe, burp, change diapers, educate, train, etc, a second baby.
We know what we need to prepare, for example: a cot, diapers, newborn rompers (we will probably cut down on the amount of clothes we buy for a newborn), formula milk powder (if Amilee is not breastfeeding for long), etc.
We also have our preferred brands and practices, for example: We like Dr Brown's baby bottles and will skip to the 8 oz. size bottles immediately instead of getting the tiny cute 4 oz. size ones.
We also prefer using Lucas' Papaw Ointment as nappy rash cream because it was one of the only brands that worked for Mae that allowed her to healed from a terrible nappy rash outbreak.
Having been through the process, I feel that the experience we gained will help to make having a second baby easier than the first, in the sense that we won't be so anxious or feel so clueless like when we were brand-new parents.
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Hi I’m Milton Goh, I'm 30 years old and i'm a blogger who writes about Christianity, Parenting, Life Lessons that I learn from Movies/Shows, and Lifestyle.